Afraid of asking or just independent-minded?
The problem with the soloist type of imposter syndrome
There are people in the world who believe they must do everything themselves and find all the answers themselves because doing anything less makes them incompetent.
They interpret asking for help as a burden to other people and feel that anything they have to do must be done alone even if it leads to burnout and mental breakdown.
These types of people have a problem with self-belief and think the only way out of this self-doubt is to work on getting more done. They need to feel like they are doing something and being productive.
They will go at things alone not because of an independent attitude but because they do have something to prove.
Everything they do serves as an opportunity for them to prove to themselves and the world that they are competent at what they do.
Since they don’t see themselves as deserving they feel the only way through that feeling is by showing people and themselves.
With this attitude of proving one’s self, they fail to learn and grow. They are too focused on the picture of their created perception that all they think is to run or evade it by being all over the place.
Sharing honor or wins can look defeating to such types of people because of the underlying insecurity within them hence the guilt they feel asking for help.
They find it difficult to ask for help when they are stuck and don’t know what direction to take.
People who suffer from this type of imposter syndrome can first learn to give themselves rest and self-compassion. Understand that they can learn to grow and blossom in their career with kindness and empathy.
The more they focus on their negativity and insecurity the harder it is for them to treat themselves with kindness. Know that everyone goes through their fair share of doubt and imposter syndrome and yours is not a special case
The soloist type of imposter syndrome also needs to be comfortable asking for help and sharing honors with people. Other people don’t take the shine out of you because they added some ideas to work.
In collaboration, you can make things better and more efficient for everyone and also create an environment of support and close friends.
