The pain that comes when things don’t go as planned and the approach to take

People get mad when things don’t go as planned because they are scared of trying again.

Samuel Madu
5 min readJul 27, 2021

We all find ourselves in situations where we keep on asking what went wrong and how we could have changed something to make our plans work perfectly fine. When things don’t go as planned we tend to see it as misfortune or as a huge blow in our gut but I am a strong believer that if we can just keep the right mindset we can learn from what went wrong.

The main purpose to me why things don’t go as planned is to show us a better way to try again. People get mad when things don’t go as planned because they are scared of trying again. The problem is not the plan not working out the problem is the time and emotional investment placed on what didn’t work out.

Time is a most vital factor and time wasted on a project that ends up not hitting its mark pains us more and discourages us from seeing the lessons that are in front of us.

Humans are wired to learn things the hard way but also humans are wired to shy away from the hard things. When things don’t go as planned especially when we feel like we have given it our all, maybe, like maybe, we haven’t really.

The truth is everyone is going to fail at the first trial, the first time to everything will end up a blunder. That plan you really think is a great plan might not really be that much of an innovation that brings the change you seek in yourself. So when things don’t go as planned it is time to take a look back and see what is wrong.

Discouragement behavior especially when things don’t go as planned is the wrong move. Trying to feel like you have given it your all and nothing resulted from whatever you have invested your time and money might also be a wrong move to push things into the right path.

First off, ask yourself what is your all? How much of an all are you talking about, if you have given it your all then I am pretty sure you won’t be disappointed and worried about how things didn’t go as planned. When things don’t go as planned they do because of some reason.

Things don’t just decide to not go as planned, there is a mistake somewhere, a blunder there and a mishap there, or some miscalculation. You can be disappointed but it is your job to look for these mistakes and correct them.

When things don’t go as planned then something is trying to redirect our step in pushing us to the right track and make us correct the mistake we are seeing

5 things to do when things don’t go as planned.

  • 1] Don’t ignore the sign:

Things didn’t go as planned for some reason and that reason is for you to find out and fix it before you start wallowing in your disappointment. Things don’t just wake up and go bad, when they go bad they go bad for some reason, especially some unforeseen reasons you are not paying attention to.

When things don’t go as planned don’t see it as a curse, instead see it as a blessing and a huge one at that. Retrace your steps and find out a way to do better.

  • 2] There’s nothing you can do about it.

When things don’t go as planned remember that you did your best and even if you didn’t, remember there’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t be killing yourself over things you can’t control and failure sometimes is inevitable in a human situation.

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You will have to learn that bad things happen and there’s nothing we can do about it to try to stop it from happening to us. Everyone will have their fair share of crisis in life and complaining about it might just be a miserable move

  • 3) Rebuilding is not time-wasting

When things don’t go as planned you might be thinking starting all over again is a time-waster for you and your corporation or whatever you have going on but don’t view things like that. Ask yourself, what will you rather do if you are not starting all over? Go home and bitch about or cry your eyes out?

There’s nothing to lose from picking up your running shoes and trying all over again. There’s nothing to lose from going back into the drawing board and looking at things all over again. You have everything to again because now you are filled with experience to push your dream further.

  • 4] Hesitancy is a disease

When things don’t as planned staying down and wishing that they did is a huge disease that you can’t afford. Being hesitant in a situation like that is going to push you down the drain. When things don’t go as planned remember to get up and go on tackling the world.

When things don’t go as planned that is the moment you need to start questioning yourself and why things didn’t go as planned. That is the moment to get up and face reality, get involved with something to drive that positive change your way.

5] You didn’t make a mistake life just happened

Truth be told I love seeing my mistakes this way, lol, yeah life just happened and I have to move on. What do you mean that I failed or my plan didn’t go as planned? I tried my best, life just happened and there’s nothing I can do about that but that’s why I need to show life that I can’t stay down, not for anything.

This is actually not taking responsibility for your mistake, this is you taking responsibility but not allowing the situation to take you down a dark path. Look at life, life is playing a huge joke on all of us, why are we actually taking it seriously when we can be laughing and having fun with our shortcomings. I love life with everything it brings.

This is where I end today’s article, I hope you had fun reading it and are ready to implement this into your life. Remember this is an open discussion and your comment is expected.

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